I have recently had some conversations with people who were feeling as though they had failed somehow because they believed they had “worked through” their issues only to find that the same feelings and issues are surfacing again.

I remember this experience well. I distinctly remember learning to connect to my emotions and allow myself to feel the feelings associated with abandonment, to explore my emotions and grieve, and eventually learn to update to my current personal truth. I remember the sense of awe I experienced when I discovered my issue and could see how it was driving me. I also remember thinking that since I had done this work, it would now be resolved and done. Then when my issue arose on another occassion, I felt like I had failed or I was doing something wrong. I had to learn that issues don’t go away and that what is in my unconscious is there to stay. My goal is not to eliminate it or change it, it is to use it effectively. This is life time work that allows me to grow more and more, and I am not a failure because I still have my issues!

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